In the quiet moments of prayer or the unexpected nudge during a conversation, God often whispers a calling to invest in someone's life. You might sense it—a divine prompting to reach out to a friend, colleague, or fellow church member who's wrestling with brokenness from past hurts, burnout from endless striving, or boredom from a faith that feels stagnant. This isn't about fixing people; it's about walking alongside them as a mentor, embodying the healing, rest, and purpose that Jesus offers. At Unquittable Church, our mission is to bring exactly that to those feeling broken, burnt out, or bored with church. Drawing from the 6 Unquittable Actions—Actively Listen, Encourage Speaking, Monitor Workload, Give Rest, Discover Passion, and Allow Engagement—we can cultivate mentorship relationships that reflect God's restorative love.

The foundation of any mentorship is presence, not advice. Brokenness often stems from feeling unseen or unheard—wounds from betrayal, loss, or unmet expectations that leave someone isolated. Begin by actively listening, one of our core Unquittable Actions. This means setting aside your agenda to truly hear their story.

Approach them humbly. Perhaps say, "I've been praying and feel led to connect more deeply with you. Would you be open to grabbing coffee?" In that first meeting, resist the urge to jump in with solutions. Instead, practice reflective listening: "What I'm hearing is that you're feeling overwhelmed by your responsibilities at church. Did I get that right?" This creates a safe space where they feel valued, mirroring how God listens to our cries in Psalm 34:17: "The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them."

Once listening opens the door, encourage speaking to draw out their voice. Silenced by fear, shame, or past church experiences, many hesitate to share. As a mentor, your role is to invite honest dialogue, restoring trust in a gospel-centered way.

Ask open-ended questions like, "What's been weighing on your heart lately?" or "How has your walk with God felt in this season?" Be patient; it might take time for them to open up. Share your own vulnerabilities to model authenticity—perhaps a time when you faced burnout yourself. This aligns with James 5:16: "Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed."

In encouraging speaking, you're combating brokenness by validating their experiences. It's not about debating theology but affirming that their pain matters to God and to you. This step often reveals deeper issues, like hidden resentments or unprocessed grief, paving the way for true healing.

Burnout creeps in when people give beyond their limits, especially in church settings where serving feels obligatory. As a mentor, monitor workload to ensure they're operating from health, not depletion.

Gently inquire about their commitments: "How's your schedule looking? Are there areas where you're feeling stretched thin?" Help them evaluate priorities using tools like a simple weekly audit—listing tasks and rating energy levels. Suggest boundaries, like saying no to extra roles without guilt.

This action echoes God's command in Exodus 20:8-10 to honor the Sabbath, reminding us that rest is obedience, not laziness. By monitoring workload, you prevent further exhaustion and model sustainable faith. One mentee I knew was juggling three ministries; through honest conversations, she scaled back, rediscovering joy in serving.

Rest isn't optional—it's essential for healing burnout. In mentorship, actively give rest by creating rhythms of renewal.

Encourage practices like Sabbath-keeping: a day free from work, filled with worship, nature, or hobbies. Suggest retreats or quiet times with God, perhaps walking through Scripture like Matthew 11:28-30, where Jesus invites the weary to find rest in Him.

Be practical: Offer to cover a responsibility so they can recharge, or recommend resources like books on spiritual rest. This isn't coddling; it's recognizing that depleted souls can't thrive. As they experience rest, boredom often lifts, replaced by a refreshed perspective on faith.

Boredom in church thrives when gifts go unused, leaving people disengaged. Help your mentee discover passion by exploring their God-given talents.

Start with assessments like spiritual gifts inventories or StrengthsFinder. Ask, "What activities make you lose track of time? Where do you feel most alive in serving God?" Connect these to opportunities—perhaps leading a small group if they're relational, or creative projects if they're artistic.

Finally, allow engagement to let them live out their faith actively. The church flourishes when everyone contributes, not just observes.

Mentorship isn't linear; expect setbacks. Boundaries are key—don't become their sole support; point them to community and professional help if needed, like counseling for deep brokenness. Stay rooted in prayer, seeking God's guidance.

In the quiet moments when God stirs your heart toward someone who's hurting—perhaps quietly withdrawing from church, feeling the weight of past wounds, exhaustion from over-serving, or a faith that has grown routine and uninspiring—mentorship becomes a sacred invitation. It's not about quick fixes but about walking together in grace, embodying the healing, rest, and purpose Jesus offers. Building on the practical steps of initiating with active listening, encouraging speaking, monitoring workload, giving rest, discovering passion, and allowing engagement, one powerful way to deepen and structure this relationship is through Unquittable Church's 8-week interactive mentorship series, known as Cast to the Depths.

Many people find themselves in this transitional space: they've left a church (or are on the verge), but they're not ready to quit on faith entirely. Isolation creeps in, amplifying pain and doubt. The 8-week series addresses this directly by creating space for honest reflection without the pressure of jumping back into a full church program. It draws from Scripture's call to discipleship—think of how Jesus met people in their mess (the woman at the well in John 4) or how Paul encouraged Timothy through letters and shared life (2 Timothy 2:2). The series equips both mentor and mentee to rediscover a living, authentic faith beyond buildings and programs.

Structured around interactive elements—weekly videos, guided reflections, articles, journaling prompts, and even curated music for meditation—it mirrors the 6 Unquittable Actions in a progressive way:

• Early weeks emphasize actively listening and encouraging speaking, helping your mentee feel seen and heard, often for the first time in a long while. You can use the session prompts during your coffee meetups to deepen conversations, validating their stories of hurt or disillusionment and pointing to God's listening heart (Psalm 34:15).
• Mid-series shifts to monitoring workload and giving rest, exploring Sabbath rhythms and boundaries as obedience to God's design (Exodus 20:8-11; Matthew 11:28-30). This is especially healing for the burnt-out, reminding them rest isn't laziness but renewal that sustains joyful service.
• Later weeks focus on discovering passion and allowing engagement, helping identify God-given gifts that have lain dormant. Through assessments and reflective exercises, your mentee reconnects with purpose, moving from boredom to excitement about contributing meaningfully—perhaps starting small in community or shared ministry with you.
  
  

The interactive format makes discipleship tangible: you watch a video together (or separately and discuss), journal responses, and share insights. This shared experience builds trust and prevents mentorship from feeling one-sided or overwhelming. It's gospel-centered, always returning to Christ's healing work, not human effort.

1. Introduce it prayerfully: After a few initial conversations where you've actively listened and encouraged speaking, share, "I've been praying about how to support you better, and I came across this 8-week series from Unquittable Church called Cast to the Depths. It's designed exactly for seasons like yours—between churches, seeking healing and purpose. Would you be open to walking through it together?"
2. Set a gentle rhythm: Commit to weekly check-ins aligned with the series. Use the materials as conversation starters rather than homework. If life gets busy, the flexible, self-guided elements allow grace.
3. Stay healthy as the mentor: The series is built with mentors in mind too—it helps you guide without depleting yourself, incorporating rest and boundaries so you model sustainable discipleship.
4. Point to broader community: Encourage joining Unquittable Church's online spaces for additional support, stories from others in similar seasons, or even connecting with more mentors if needed.
   
   

This isn't about replacing church but rebuilding a foundation of trust in God's people and presence. Many who've felt broken, burnt out, or bored have found fresh hope through structured yet personal discipleship like this—emerging not just restored but ready to engage meaningfully again.

If God has placed someone on your heart, consider Cast to the Depths as a companion tool. Visit unquittablechurch.com/course/cast-to-the-depths to learn more and join starting February 2026 (or explore similar resources like the free self-paced Becoming Unquittable workshop based on the 6 Actions). In these in-between seasons, your faithful presence—amplified by intentional discipleship—can be the very thing that keeps someone from quitting on the beautiful, messy body of Christ.

Through listening ears, open invitations to speak, careful care for their load, generous space for rest, passion rediscovery, and empowered engagement, you're not just mentoring—you're participating in God's redemptive story. And that's unquittable.